Hey everyone, I’m sorry in advance this is more like a vent…
This is something that I’ve been feeling more and more lately. I never had a lot of friends, but it’s been now a year since I started my (social) transition and 7 months I’m on HRT. Changes are starting to be visible enough for strangers to call me “ma’am” sometimes ! And it makes me really feel so good !
The thing is that most of the friends I had pre-transition (and I’m talking about long friendships) are just not taking my transition as well as I would like, not all but most of them refuse to call me she or even by my new name. saying that they don’t want to bury the other “me” or that they need more time and one even confessed to me that he was waiting for me to “go back”... Even my mother told me that she didn’t like the fact that she needed to make an effort to call me “she” and my new name so I just should accept her deadnaming me because it’s her right, and it’s selfish of me to expect that she does.Since
me to hear them call me “he” and “deadname” I just try to not engage in conversations anymore, and of course, this isolates me and with time it just destroys the relationships. I know it’s my fault, but I reached a point where I feel like I need to make new friends that just love me for who I am today and not try to hold back to my old me, I have nothing against the fact that I am AMAB, I accept my pass and I don’t regret it, but I just want to move on and live my real life as ME.
I am very lucky to have an amazing supporting gf that I love dearly, but I wish I could make new friends and not burden her with all this, or at least less than now. She has great ideas for trying to meet new people so we are going to try that.
Thank you for reading my wall of text <3
TLDR: The further I go in transition the more I feel like myself but my friends pre-transition are just not accepting it, so I feel lonely.