Is self-harm just attention-seeking?

[Chairman]

I can't understand why-- even to a mentally ill person-- one would be addicted to pain. It's literally a primal response of "don't do that"-- one that even the most basic of animals can understand. And the vast majority of SHers' method of choice is cutting: a paticularly "aesthetic" (not my words) method. And the vast majority of SHers are women and teenage girls-- the people who are in the most dire need of attention. Also read what some 'Fe Queen said:
>i have never cut but everytime i read /see references to it I'm like entranced by the look of the scars. i feel bad that I basically like the aesthetic of it but ill never admit it and hope I never actually cut. [Source: https://crystal.cafe/feels/res/98173.html#98421]
I hypothesize that SHers just bring it upon themselves, really. Some combination of garnering sympathy, attracting attention, fitting into their definition of "cool" etc. drags them into it. Also, other autists might understand when I compare SH to a story of when I was in 2nd grade and I was banging my head into the desk because I took pleasure in it for socially-related reasons I find difficult to explain; with the difference being that SHers like showing off their Victim Card.

 

[USL]

Is self-harm just attention-seeking?

Obviously. It's also a red flag and you should not associate with people who engage in self-harm.

 

[Oot]

Sometimes. Sometimes not. Some take it out on themselves because they enjoy the feeling. Some do it because they see it as a way to punish themselves for their wrongdoings. Either way, it's cringe and there are better things to do than self mutilate.

 

[basil]

maybe, especially those annoying types who are like “i’m gonna do it!! i will yelp!! i will yelp!!”

 

[.is refugee]

Yeah; also there's no need to continue the thread, that's the answer.

 

[King of kyrgyzstan]

Move this thread to /qa/

 

[tanzanite]

i did it once and never told anyone, so no.

 

[Chairman]

i did it once and never told anyone, so no.

But you just told us.

 

[ZOGs #1 Supporter]

guys, don't harm yourself, harm others!

 

[SalsaMaster]

*TROONtention

 

[Soyteen Liker]

I can't understand why-- even to a mentally ill person-- one would be addicted to pain.

Various reasons, when I did it, it was because sharp physical pain served as a shock and would reorient the emotional pain. Other reasons mentioned are to punish oneself, and maybe attention but I would say that's the minority. It's way easier to just post lewd stuff for attention.

And the vast majority of SHers are women and teenage girls-- the people who are in the most dire need of attention.

It probably spreads through social contagion which is more common in girls but that's like saying "anorexia is for attention"

Also, other autists might understand when I compare SH to a story of when I was in 2nd grade and I was banging my head into the desk because I took pleasure in it for socially-related reasons I find difficult to explain; with the difference being that SHers like showing off their Victim Card.

Except that most do it in private on their upper thighs so people *don't* see the scars.

 

[tanzanite]

But you just told us.

my family i mean, and it was to prove my point and not for your attention

 

[Chesnaught]

Only if you feel the need to bring it up randomly to people. If you do it for personal reasons and hide it, then clearly not.

 

[tanzanite]

Only if you feel the need to bring it up randomly to people. If you do it for personal reasons and hide it, then clearly not.

exactly my point, the only person you should bring it up to is a therapist at most

 

[Chesnaught]

maybe, especially those annoying types who are like “i’m gonna do it!! i will yelp!! i will yelp!!”

I hate people like that. It's like suicide, If I was going to kill myself, I would be dead.

 

[HACKERMAN88]

exactly my point, the only person you should bring it up to is a therapist at most

i feel like you can also share it to someone close, like a very close friend, but that only if you want help and not attention because attentionfagging is r/cringe no matter the context