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Ok so from what I understand, grooming refers to acquaintancing yourself with a girl under the age of 18 with the hopes that you can transition from friendship to romantic relationship after she turns 18, correct?
As a society we percieve it as morally wrong to pursue someone sexually who is below the age of consent, because they are basically easily taken advantage of and shouldn't be recognized as fully responsible for their own actions. We as a society have recognized that someone is responsible for their actions once they are past the legal age requirement for such actions.
So why is it wrong for someone to wait to sexually pursue someone they know until they are older than a correct age? Is this not a virtuous decision?
Common counter arguments I see:
>It's wrong to groom because you are bypassing parental supervision
This is 100% correct, but nobody seems to care when it comes to the friendships girls make with male peers. In fact, it's seen as somewhat backwards these days for a father to forbid his daughter from having male friends at school (where there is no parental supervision). Male peers of adolescent girls are also much more likely to make romantic advances due to their own immaturity and due to the lack of social stigma around it
>It's wrong because you built up her trust while she was a minor
Again, this applies to male peers as well, and furthermore it shouldn't be relevant. We never make this exception for other things in society, including other very important things, because we recognize that you are responsible for your own decisions after a certain point of maturity. You should be able to recognize the context in which you have lived your life.
I think that grooming is bad for two reasons: First of all, it is bad because it defeats the role of parental supervision. Secondly, it is bad because it makes it more difficult for boys in high school to get female attention, and missing out on young love has debilitating effects later in life. However, it makes no sense with the lax standards we have on male-female friendships in public schools, and with the belief that parents shouldn't really have authority over any of this stuff unless it presents a "danger".
As a society we percieve it as morally wrong to pursue someone sexually who is below the age of consent, because they are basically easily taken advantage of and shouldn't be recognized as fully responsible for their own actions. We as a society have recognized that someone is responsible for their actions once they are past the legal age requirement for such actions.
So why is it wrong for someone to wait to sexually pursue someone they know until they are older than a correct age? Is this not a virtuous decision?
Common counter arguments I see:
>It's wrong to groom because you are bypassing parental supervision
This is 100% correct, but nobody seems to care when it comes to the friendships girls make with male peers. In fact, it's seen as somewhat backwards these days for a father to forbid his daughter from having male friends at school (where there is no parental supervision). Male peers of adolescent girls are also much more likely to make romantic advances due to their own immaturity and due to the lack of social stigma around it
>It's wrong because you built up her trust while she was a minor
Again, this applies to male peers as well, and furthermore it shouldn't be relevant. We never make this exception for other things in society, including other very important things, because we recognize that you are responsible for your own decisions after a certain point of maturity. You should be able to recognize the context in which you have lived your life.
I think that grooming is bad for two reasons: First of all, it is bad because it defeats the role of parental supervision. Secondly, it is bad because it makes it more difficult for boys in high school to get female attention, and missing out on young love has debilitating effects later in life. However, it makes no sense with the lax standards we have on male-female friendships in public schools, and with the belief that parents shouldn't really have authority over any of this stuff unless it presents a "danger".
